A conscious decision.
Silence can surround you or it can consume you. It can be a good thing or a bad thing. The context in which you experience silence can alter your outlook on life, your relationships with others, or it can keep you in a good place.
Initiate silence to calm yourself, quieting your internal noise in order to observe the sounds of nature. Silence your thoughts and listen to the birds chirping, the rain dancing on the window sill, the leaves rustling in the breeze.
Consider the adult who tells the child to be silent; don’t speak unless spoken to. In certain circumstances those words may be appropriate. But raise a child with those words constantly spoken, and you raise child that may never learn how to establish and develop relationships as s/he gets older, someone who many never learn to engage in meaningful conversations.
Sometimes be silent. Don’t speak your mind. Don’t hurt others’ feelings. Know when to speak and when to keep your mouth shut. Don’t put your foot in your mouth; don’t say something you don’t mean; don’t shoot from the hip – unless you are ready to deal with the consequences stemming from acting out those clichés.
And be happy when silence is recognized and when a concerned friend questions your silence. It’s nice to know that someone cares.